Impostor Syndrome? Meet 6 Friends (in my head) Who Help Me “Own My BS”

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I’m a firm believer in having people in your corner who can help you “own your BS.” Your BS is the real reason why you can’t achieve something. It’s your biggest fear. It’s those bad habits you can’t seem to break. These people help you reveal your authentic self to the world.

But the reality is, only if you’re lucky will you have people in your corner who can not only detect your BS but also call you on it.

At times, an entrepreneur’s journey is lonely. Friends and family may not fully understand or support your decisions to keep going despite obstacles. And if you’re a person like me who transitioned from employee to entrepreneur, you often struggle with impostor syndrome —“having to live with a nagging fear of being “found out” as not being as smart or talented or deserving or experienced or fill-in-the-blank

Dealing with impostor syndrome can lead to procrastination, comparison and missed opportunity.

So meet my “BFF’s in my head.” My virtual truth commission of professionals who help me own my BS.  I don’t know any of them personally but when I’m feeling unsure of myself, need a shift in perspective or some creative business advice, I “lovingly stalk” their web sites or social media accounts for inspiration.

Any who, they’re incredibly smart, extremely successful at defining their own rules for success; and some of them even drop a few f-bombs every now and then—and I love them for it. Check out their profiles below.

Photo Cred: Seth
Photo Cred: Seth


Seth Godin – “Go Make Something Happen.” Each day at around 6:30 am I look forward to  Seth Godin’s “kandid talks” about life and business marketing delivered to my inbox. His best-selling books Purple Cow and Tribes are transformative. “The Tribes We Lead” is a must watch. And without a doubt, you should subscribe to his daily post.

“No one is going to pick you. Pick yourself.”

“It’s a cultural instinct to wait to get picked. To seek out the permission and authority that comes from a publisher or talk show host or even a blogger saying, “I pick you.”

Once you reject that impulse and realize that no one is going to select you–that Prince Charming has chosen another house–then you can actually get to work. If you’re hoping that the HR people you sent your resume to are about to pick you, it’s going to be a long wait. Once you understand that there are problems just waiting to be solved, once you realize that you have all the tools and all the permission you need, then opportunities to contribute abound.~Seth Godin


Gary Vaynerchuk – is the founder of Vaynerchuk Media and best-selling author of Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World, a great read for anyone getting started with social media. Gary’s known to drop a few f-bombs and this is why he’s a keeper on my board of  “truth” commissioners. He literally doesn’t hold back on his views about social media, business and life advice.

Katrice Mines_Instagram
Katrice Mines_Instagram

Katrice Mines – is the editor of the Atlanta Tribune: The Magazine, blogger behind My Vicarious Life and the “soul sistah” in my head who provides great insight around how to authentically live your best life. Follow My Vicarious Lyfe on Instagram.


Marie Forleo – When I watched Marie’s video remake of Jay-Z’s Empire State of Mind, I fell in awe of her unique ability to empower people to live their best lives. She was also featured by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation. She provides  an 8 week, interactive video-based training program that teaches smart, effective online marketing strategies to business owners who want more sales and more impact from their online presence. I look forward to her inspirational videos delivered to my inbox each Tuesday, and I’m speaking it into existence that Marie and I will meet one-day!

Alexandra Franzen – Sits at the head at the head of the “Rebel” table. She refuses to conform to the social media age and I love her for it. She’ writes “get off your but” compelling content and her work is featured in Forbes, Times, Newsweek, Fast Company, Newsweek & More.

“In life, love, fitness, and business, real courage means trusting in yourself and trying “one more time and always one more time.” Even after humiliation and pain. Even after your fortieth rejection slip. Even after the crunch of broken bone. Even after the critics online (and the critics inside your mind) have been ruthlessly unkind. Up again. On your feet. To the wall. In the fight. Stronger, wiser, more determined than ever. Ready to deliver. Always one more time.~Alexandra Franzen



Myleik TeeleBadassery in full effect with this “Rulebreaker.” Myleik is the founder of Curlbox and recently launched, an inspiring space for young, multicultural women. Not only does she provide actionable advice on life and business, she has an insane ability to call the masses on their BS. Subscribe to her podcast and follow her on Instagram and Twitter.

Cindy Gallop photographed by Kevin Abosch
Cindy Gallop photographed by Kevin Abosch











Cindy Gallop –  Cindy sits at head of  the Rulebreaker, Revolutionary and Rebel commission. She specializes in brand reinvention, game changing business ideas and social networking. You can check out her professional website here. And I adore her movement  “ifwerantheworld, an initiative to get people to turn good intention into action.

“I like to blow shit up. I am the Michael Bay of business.”  “You’ll never own the future if you care what other people think.”~Cindy Gallop

Here’s one final thing, sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader– get up, get out  and just make “ish” happen.

Do you have any social media friends who help motivate you? Drop me a line in the comments section below.

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